Mastering the Art of Chill
When I was growing up, my mother had this major issue about “all the things she accomplished for the day”. Whenever, I came home from school and asked, “What did you do today, mommy?” She almost always replied, “Well, I certainly wasn’t eating bon bons all day.” Herein lies my personal inability to truly take a day off, just relax and be actually present in the various 'chill' moments at hand.
Something feels wrong to me if I’m not juggling a bunch of tasks in one day. I honestly feel bad about myself if I haven’t made a significant dent in my never-ending to do list. I would consider myself lazy if I wasn't able to say that I accomplished at least ten different things in any given day. I’ve discussed being a perfectionist before, but I think this is more of an aversion to remaining present in a specific moment and an incessant need to be overly efficient. In layman's terms, I don't know how to relax!
When I'm spending quality time with my favorite person in the world (my son, of course), I have a tendency to still attempt to multitask and sometimes constantly gaze at my phone. I do realize that true relaxation should not and does not have direct implications of being slothful yet in the fast paced world of grinding to success, the art of chill has truly missed me. Everyone needs a break every now and then and I believe that sometimes your best inspiration can come from your downtime. Disconnecting from the hustle and flow of life can serve as your personal recharger and reset. I truly want to live my life and get happiness from special moments.
I'm attempting to master the art of 'chlll' by doing the following:
- Alone Time - Since I started my blog, I get up early to write. Even though I'm not a morning person, have never been one and probably won't ever become one, I actually enjoy this time I have to myself. Depending on how early I wake up, I can get a good 45 minutes without hubby or baby first thing in the morning. I just sip my hot lemon water and 'chill', solo. I can also squeeze this in when I run personal errands. One day I was going to take my son to the zoo and he crashed so I hit up the cutest cafe and originally planned on having an espresso but judging by Luca's snoring, decided I could probably do a glass of Prosecco. It was a beautiful 30 minutes:)
- Meditate / Pray - I don't do this one as much as I should but this is a great way to take a true timeout. You can do it anywhere and it calms the inner storm.
- Hanging with friends or family - Extra points for not looking at your phone.
- Reading a book - Another method of taking time for yourself.
- Exploring / Discovery - Find something different and new. I absolutely love discovering and exploring new places, people, activities, etc. This is just another way to completely take a break from the status quo and decompress.
How have you mastered the art of chill?