Sunday Musings: The Beauty of Friendship

The beautiful weather is back and I couldn't be happier or more thankful. Rosé season is officially upon us and I'm most definitely loving it. Friendship is undisputedly the bedrock of my life. I briefly mentioned it in my last post but wanted to expand on the institution of friendship and how important it is to me.

They say that friends are the family that you chose and to that point, it's not a particularly easy feat to find true, trustworthy and phenomenal friends, especially as you age. I have a small group of friends, the majority of which I have had for over a decade. One of my friends even goes back to when I was 10 years old, and I love and cherish every single one of them. There is something I find so incredibly healing about spending quality time with a friend. There is a kind of emotional repair that is derived from my daily intermittent text convos that I have with my friends that is different from any relationship I've ever had with a love interest.  Research shows that women speak 13,000 more words than a man per day and most likely, they are speaking to their friends.

The beauty of my friends, is our shared experiences. The fact that we seemingly vibrate at the same frequency, at the some point in our life. At least 2 out of the group are in a common space emotionally and we are able to find solace in the fact that we are not going through challenging experiences, completely alone. Even if they aren't in the same place in their respective lives, I have found that at some point, one of my friends might have been where I currently am and so they are able to pass along what they learned. This is priceless. The unwavering support, the way we carrol around each other and push each other to grow, is a tremendous blessing to me. It's this connectedness with my friends that deeply enriches my life and has brought me through and supported me during some of my darkest hours.

Sometimes life gets in the way of our connections, but I think nurturing friendships is a paramount priority in my life. Try connecting with some of your closest friends on a more frequent basis and notice the impact this makes in your life. Let me know how it works out.

True friendship multiplies the good in life and divides its evils. Strive to have friends, for life without friends is like life on a desert island… to find one real friend in a lifetime is good fortune; to keep him is a blessing.
— Unknown

As you get older, do you think your circle of friends expands or shrinks? Do you feel like gaining new friends is a lifelong exercise? Please share with me.


Photography by Kait Ebinger