Do You Know When It's Time to Move on From a Friendship?

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So the saying goes that you can tell a lot about someone by the company that they keep. I would have to agree that the people you surround yourself with, are a real indication of your current state of mind. I've recently had a few conversations about this topic and wanted to share my thoughts, in the event that someone else is ready to "edit" their friends.

I would say that I am in the category of people that has a very small group of true friends. I have tons of acquaintances and people that I chat it up with, but not very many people I would count as friends. Many of my friends are people that I have known for a while. My best friend is from my childhood and other close friendships are over 10 years old at this point. I say all that to say that for the most part, I'm protective of who I open myself up to and the kind of energy that I keep close to me. The wrong friendship could be just as damaging as the wrong relationship and take you to a place energetically that is depleting, uncomfortable, and impedes personal growth and advancement.

Recently, I've been thinking about the company that I keep. Sometimes you are so used to people and situations that you grow numb to the aspects of them that no longer gel with you and the direction that you are going in. Often times when you are disappointed in a friendship and realize that it's not right for you, much like a dead-end job, it's difficult to move on and hard to accept that you are growing apart. However, none of these are reasons to hold on to a relationship that is no longer for you. Presently, this is where I'm at. I have intentionally made a decision to fill my cup with positivity in my day to day and steer away from incessant ratchet and negative input.

Some friends do not want to grow. They cling to bad habits like a comfort blanket and relish in immature behavior with their endless tales of drama and negativity. Their freefalling approach to life and base conversations stand in stark contrast with the upbeat and uplifting input, I am currently focused on. Just like negative self-talk, consistently interacting with someone who chooses to remain in a "sunken place", can drastically impact your state of mind for the worse. The mentality of the people you interact with on a regular basis can so easily morph into your own mentality. It's a soft sell type of approach that you rarely notice until you take a moment to take inventory of where you are in life. Before you know it, you have adopted the "Debbie Downer" or "Draya drama" conversational style.

It is also essential for me to have honest friends. If you can't be honest with your friends, then who can you be honest with? After all, a true friend is not there to stand in judgment of you but to serve as a loving source of encouragement and support. If you are involved in something they don't agree with or don't feel is right, then they can provide the clarity that you may not have access to on your own. However, they remain a friend and not a parent, and so your ultimate life decisions are your own. Therefore, there is never a reason as far as I'm concerned, for a friend to lie to you or misrepresent themselves to you. If you are made aware of such dishonest conduct from a friend, it's a red-flag to question the sincerity of the friend and the veracity of the friendship.

Picture the friend that you laugh with, joke with, share life insights with. You feel genuinely both light-hearted and cared for when you leave their presence. It's one the most beautiful feelings in the world. So in this life of dreams pursued and conquered, maintaining a fortress of the right energy is crucial to your personal success. The company you keep is pertinent to the right energy. Which leads me to the next point. When you have discovered that you have "outgrown" someone or they are no longer a positive aspect of your life, your first obligation is to yourself and to your evolution to separate from a connection that does not positively impact you. You owe the other party nothing because it's nothing personal, it's just a matter of maintaining your emotional and mental health.

What's your opinion on this? Have you recently taken an honest look at some of the closest people to you and determined that it was time to move on from 1 or 2 in particular? Drop me a line here, FB or IG and let me know your take on this topic. Don't forget to sign up for the newsletter, so you don't miss out:)

Love x Light,

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