Is Posting Your Significant Other, Worth It?
A few days ago I was reading an advice post on Instagram where a woman had written in asking why her boyfriend only posted one, of the two of their children, on his social media. This post was populated with comments that almost unanimously concluded that the man had another girlfriend and that other girlfriend probably thinks he only has one child with his ex. Hence, the reason he is only posting one child, and not both. I shared this with my husband. He laughed at how negative these women were and this led to a conversation between us about the guidelines and rules about posting your significant other online.
My profile clearly states I am married and have a child. My IG is also personal, but not personal which is how I approach photos of my family. First, this a decision best made by the two people involved in the relationship. I certainly am not the one to tell someone what makes sense to do for them. However, I do believe if you have a social media account and it’s personal, a photo of your significant other should appear somewhere on your page. Clearly, a business account may not be an appropriate place to post your date night pics and your significant other shouldn’t be miffed by that. But if you have a personal account and are in a relationship, somewhere on that page, your love should make an appearance.
My husband and I agreed on a few swipes. I broke it down mathematically. 3 swipes. A swipe being roughly 9 squares. So out of 27 squares, at least one should contain your boo. My husband’s Instagram contains photos of his personal photography. A lot of his photos have a docu-style presentation of everyday people. In quite a few of his photos of me, it’s not really clear that I am his wife. I think only if you knew us, would you really know the relationship. This does not bother me.
However, what exactly is in an IG pic? You could have your significant other in photos all over your page meanwhile, your relationship does not amount to much offline. In which case, this is all for show. A photo for the public is not a direct indicator of the health of your relationship, nor does it speak to the happiness of the people involved. Conversely, there are people, who do not post photos of their partner at all, and are very happy together.
It’s nice to be shown off. Especially as a woman, you want love to be professed to you through word of mouth and actions. My personal priority is what my husband is doing offline and how our actual relationship is validated, celebrated, respected, and supported on a daily basis as opposed to the “representation” of our relationship.
What say you? Is it important to you that your partner post you on their social media? Sound off!
Love x Light